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How about some haikus to replace your doggerel?
Spring – the time for love
Stop sitting on the side lines
Make your own chances
or
Love in the spring time
Unfolding like a flower
There for the taking.
Okay I am not sure who actually said it, but you get the point. Thought without action? Pshaw. It’s only dead-end self-pitying if you aren’t going to -do- anything about it.
“Action without thought is a form of insanity; Thought without action is a crime.” Albert Einstein
Action without thought is mindlessness, and thought without action is hypocritical. – Ayn Rand
Kwame Nkrumah said, ‘Thought without action is empty and action without thought is blind.
“From what I understood in The Secret, thought without action won’t do much.” some blog comment.
“Thought without action is a hollow intellectual sham” the book _Creative Change_.
Action without thought, to adapt a phrase from Kant, is blind; thought without action is empty.
[...] few days ago, Berk noted (and I tend to agree) that the comments on my last entry were a little bit over-the-top, perhaps even condescending. Though I admit that spring makes me [...]
Frangelico and I may not see eye to eye on this, but I think there are things he could be doing that he is not. Or at least I can imagine them. See below.
I did not intend to condescend by listing all the different people to whom one quote is attributed. I thought it was funny. How could anyone confuse Rand, Einstein, Kant, Nkrumah and _The Secret_ (insert spitting on the ground like as if some said Wullerton at the Ruby) for each other?
Okay perhaps teasing out what ‘action’ could look like is more useful than dispensing Nike relationship advice, “Just do it”.
I think the world of full of infinite, okay well a lot of possibilities. On Frangability’s suggestion, I post this reply despite its length.
About making connections, getting out there – I like to ask couples I like how they met. People meet romantic partners in all kinds of interesting ways. Dog walking! I wouldn’t have guessed.
Well, dancing is a really good thing, and there’s always a shortage of good leads. Wear a dapper hat that is easy for women to compliment you on.
I have met or deepened the connection I had with people over Facebook.
I have a friend who liked E-Harmony okay, it is much more based on who you are, not your physical looks like Lavalife might be. They match you based on things that matter more.
Meeting people… I often have met people through community theatre. You could be in a play or a musical with someone. You really good at that stuff, and it is a creative outlet. Heck yah, you should be in a play just for the experience of that.
What about around the radio station?
Or doing some kind of volunteering that would put you in the circles of women who share that value.
Does Dragon’s Den have games nights? I know I know, that’s mostly guys, but it could work.
Do you consider yourself green? Often cities have this thing called Green drinks, where people who care about the environment have a pint together and talk about stuff. That might be a way to meet people who think like you and it is not a loud bar, but a place for conversation. If not you could start it.
You could campaign for Ryan Meilli, or get involved in Station 20 West stuff. That seems to be a magnet for great people.
I could ask my mid-late 20’s aged friends in Saskatoon about great women they know with whom they could set you up. Ways for Frang to meet people…
I am a big believer in a good set up. CBC’s DNTO concluded that women are better at this then men. Like there are people who know you well who must know interesting women that you might click with. I am a fan of the set up and the blind date. Or lower key, if your mutual friend arranges some group activity where you two can check each other out.
Volunteer to befriend a new foreign grad student.
Play Frisbee in the bowl and invite girls to play.
Have a mini booth at the market where you give poems on origami and little buttons away, and have a sign that invites people to stop at your table. “Pay it forward”? Some kind of illogical gift of love to the world. I’d totally be drawn to someone who did that at the market.
Or sing at the market, but then it is hard to have conversations.
Some kind of initiative akin to the youtube free hugs phenomenon.
Is there an outdoors club at the university? Go on some day long bike ride that someone else organized.
What cool events does the grad student society hold over the summer? or maybe your department.
Can you do CHEP stuff? Women who care about food issues, that’d be good.
I used to host weekly Open Suppers where our house invited well, everyone we knew to come over and share a meal, and to bring their friends. Sometimes we played games, or once we did a clothing exchange, but it was this nice laid back space where people could talk to anyone else. I love that my friends met my other friends, and the web of relationships that keeps society together got thicker and stronger when people connected. Women who would want to come to a vegetarian dinner party/ pot luck/ Open Supper – that could be someone you’d click with.
Maybe your CMS job will lead you to get to know more new people who are into higher education.
What about the religion grad students? Did you do stuff with the GSA or the Union, if they have one, or grad social groups, campus can be a great place to meet lots of people.
Start an Afganistan reading group. Put up posters at McNally. Oh yah, hold it at McNally, safe public neutral well known space. I bet they’d like that and advertise it for you.
Or just go to readings and events at McNally. That’s less work.
Philosophy colloquium at USask.
No Nos improv at off Broadway on Friday nights.
What’s going on at the Refinery?
REFUSE TO SIT DOWN open mic comedy at Vangelis
Okay I am just grabbing things out the Planet S listings.
Attend an art opening at the Mendel.
What about We Are Many? They would need sound people – volunteer with them, I’m sure there’s amazing women involved with that.
I met someone yesterday by sharing a big cookie with a stranger on the street. You should start carrying cookies around, in case.
Organise road trips to the beach.
Be a regular at some place like The Living Room, and get known by name. Maybe Amigos, it’d have some music culture, maybe Llydias…
Go to parties. Talk to strangers.
Academic conferences? Do you have anything you could submit to a conference? That’d be good for you professionally also. You’d meet smart women who ask similar question to yours. That’s how my parents met. You can look at a woman from your low risk spot in the audience and see what she’s like and how she thinks, how she responds to questions.
Folk festivals. Volunteer for the information station, where anyone can stroll over and loiter, and you can go up to a women, because you are wearing The Vest of Officiality, and offer to answer questions or give her directions, and then just carry on and talk abut what ever, and arrange to meet her later after your shift for the late night concert. Ta da.
Or go to an outdoor concert with a large quantity of some delicious homemade food that has a lot of good aroma. Maybe samosas, and share with people around. Or a big big insulated thing of hot chocolate as the evening gets cooler.
Do karaoke in lots of places.
You and Berv the one who those who like him like him a lot should learn a song and go to an open mike night and meet women there at that. Women who can sing or at least appreciate creativity.
Read books outside on the lawn or in the park on a blanket and be friendly to people who walk by.
Put up a lemonade sign and sell little glasses for 10 cents.
Volunteer to do sound for some fundraising event that you believe in.
Share cheese curds with strangers at the market. A guy struck up a convo with me that way.
Hold a staff barbeque at the radio station and tell people to bring people. Some fun theme, and an all seventies dress code…
Volunteer for the Fringe festival, in some social role. You could meet hundreds of people. Also you are great at acting, so you could talk about that shared interest with her. Bernstein could get you in, or introduce you to cool people in that community.
One way for you to meet people is to be in love with yourself and doing things that bring you joy so that what people notice about you, so they see what is shining out of you, because you are giving off a great vibe.
Practice taking relationship risks. It does get easier with time and practice.
Ask a cute girl on the street for directions, and then make her laugh.
Host a murder mystery and invite newer friends to come. Someone is always secretly having an affair with some other character. Serve wine so everyone is more low key.
Host monthly theatre sports at the Albert Community Centre, and go for beers after. Put up lots of posters all over, and make everyone feel welcome, and have a dependable core group of people, who totally aren’t cliquey or ever make an inside joke, but enough of a group so that people feel like they can join an entity that exists.
Host poetry writing beside the river every Saturday afternoon, with a big big sign, and balloons, lots of people walk over the Victoria street bridge, see who comes over.
I’ve met people at non-academic conferences. Find something in Sask on a topic you care about. Working the coffee break.
Get a community garden plot, and share a spade.
Do yoga. LOTs of women do it, and they are physically active, but more thoughtful than aerobics-doers. Also you can mentally engage with yoga, and I think the meditation part would bear a LOT of fruit in your life if you committed to regular practice. Oh totally yes, you should really find a good local yoga studio and start going every week. Men wear baggy shorts. And you can just hang around and be friendly at the end. It takes a few weeks before anyone talks at yoga, but if you stay with it, it comes. And after a few weeks, you can actually talk about how your yoga practice is going.
Take a course, like maybe a sask rec course, cooking, or a continuing ed course on campus, or a grad course. I’ve met lots of people in classes, and you automatically have something to talk about. You are witty, smart, creative, charming – I’d talk to you.
Clickity click Martha-trix - April 24, 2009 at 10:36 pm
Once again, I appreciate the feedback, but (as previously noted) these are not things that I enjoy doing… Meeting strangers is not a skill-set that I possess. It is something that I am working on (going to dances, etc.), but it is just that: work.
How about some haikus to replace your doggerel?
Spring – the time for love
Stop sitting on the side lines
Make your own chances
or
Love in the spring time
Unfolding like a flower
There for the taking.
Okay I am not sure who actually said it, but you get the point. Thought without action? Pshaw. It’s only dead-end self-pitying if you aren’t going to -do- anything about it.
“Action without thought is a form of insanity; Thought without action is a crime.” Albert Einstein
Action without thought is mindlessness, and thought without action is hypocritical. – Ayn Rand
Kwame Nkrumah said, ‘Thought without action is empty and action without thought is blind.
“From what I understood in The Secret, thought without action won’t do much.” some blog comment.
“Thought without action is a hollow intellectual sham” the book _Creative Change_.
Action without thought, to adapt a phrase from Kant, is blind; thought without action is empty.
[...] few days ago, Berk noted (and I tend to agree) that the comments on my last entry were a little bit over-the-top, perhaps even condescending. Though I admit that spring makes me [...]
Frangelico and I may not see eye to eye on this, but I think there are things he could be doing that he is not. Or at least I can imagine them. See below.
I did not intend to condescend by listing all the different people to whom one quote is attributed. I thought it was funny. How could anyone confuse Rand, Einstein, Kant, Nkrumah and _The Secret_ (insert spitting on the ground like as if some said Wullerton at the Ruby) for each other?
Okay perhaps teasing out what ‘action’ could look like is more useful than dispensing Nike relationship advice, “Just do it”.
I think the world of full of infinite, okay well a lot of possibilities. On Frangability’s suggestion, I post this reply despite its length.
About making connections, getting out there – I like to ask couples I like how they met. People meet romantic partners in all kinds of interesting ways. Dog walking! I wouldn’t have guessed.
Well, dancing is a really good thing, and there’s always a shortage of good leads. Wear a dapper hat that is easy for women to compliment you on.
I have met or deepened the connection I had with people over Facebook.
I have a friend who liked E-Harmony okay, it is much more based on who you are, not your physical looks like Lavalife might be. They match you based on things that matter more.
Meeting people… I often have met people through community theatre. You could be in a play or a musical with someone. You really good at that stuff, and it is a creative outlet. Heck yah, you should be in a play just for the experience of that.
What about around the radio station?
Or doing some kind of volunteering that would put you in the circles of women who share that value.
Does Dragon’s Den have games nights? I know I know, that’s mostly guys, but it could work.
Do you consider yourself green? Often cities have this thing called Green drinks, where people who care about the environment have a pint together and talk about stuff. That might be a way to meet people who think like you and it is not a loud bar, but a place for conversation. If not you could start it.
You could campaign for Ryan Meilli, or get involved in Station 20 West stuff. That seems to be a magnet for great people.
I could ask my mid-late 20’s aged friends in Saskatoon about great women they know with whom they could set you up. Ways for Frang to meet people…
I am a big believer in a good set up. CBC’s DNTO concluded that women are better at this then men. Like there are people who know you well who must know interesting women that you might click with. I am a fan of the set up and the blind date. Or lower key, if your mutual friend arranges some group activity where you two can check each other out.
Volunteer to befriend a new foreign grad student.
Play Frisbee in the bowl and invite girls to play.
Have a mini booth at the market where you give poems on origami and little buttons away, and have a sign that invites people to stop at your table. “Pay it forward”? Some kind of illogical gift of love to the world. I’d totally be drawn to someone who did that at the market.
Or sing at the market, but then it is hard to have conversations.
Some kind of initiative akin to the youtube free hugs phenomenon.
Is there an outdoors club at the university? Go on some day long bike ride that someone else organized.
What cool events does the grad student society hold over the summer? or maybe your department.
Can you do CHEP stuff? Women who care about food issues, that’d be good.
I used to host weekly Open Suppers where our house invited well, everyone we knew to come over and share a meal, and to bring their friends. Sometimes we played games, or once we did a clothing exchange, but it was this nice laid back space where people could talk to anyone else. I love that my friends met my other friends, and the web of relationships that keeps society together got thicker and stronger when people connected. Women who would want to come to a vegetarian dinner party/ pot luck/ Open Supper – that could be someone you’d click with.
Maybe your CMS job will lead you to get to know more new people who are into higher education.
What about the religion grad students? Did you do stuff with the GSA or the Union, if they have one, or grad social groups, campus can be a great place to meet lots of people.
Start an Afganistan reading group. Put up posters at McNally. Oh yah, hold it at McNally, safe public neutral well known space. I bet they’d like that and advertise it for you.
Or just go to readings and events at McNally. That’s less work.
Philosophy colloquium at USask.
No Nos improv at off Broadway on Friday nights.
What’s going on at the Refinery?
REFUSE TO SIT DOWN open mic comedy at Vangelis
Okay I am just grabbing things out the Planet S listings.
Attend an art opening at the Mendel.
What about We Are Many? They would need sound people – volunteer with them, I’m sure there’s amazing women involved with that.
I met someone yesterday by sharing a big cookie with a stranger on the street. You should start carrying cookies around, in case.
Organise road trips to the beach.
Be a regular at some place like The Living Room, and get known by name. Maybe Amigos, it’d have some music culture, maybe Llydias…
Go to parties. Talk to strangers.
Academic conferences? Do you have anything you could submit to a conference? That’d be good for you professionally also. You’d meet smart women who ask similar question to yours. That’s how my parents met. You can look at a woman from your low risk spot in the audience and see what she’s like and how she thinks, how she responds to questions.
Folk festivals. Volunteer for the information station, where anyone can stroll over and loiter, and you can go up to a women, because you are wearing The Vest of Officiality, and offer to answer questions or give her directions, and then just carry on and talk abut what ever, and arrange to meet her later after your shift for the late night concert. Ta da.
Or go to an outdoor concert with a large quantity of some delicious homemade food that has a lot of good aroma. Maybe samosas, and share with people around. Or a big big insulated thing of hot chocolate as the evening gets cooler.
Do karaoke in lots of places.
You and Berv the one who those who like him like him a lot should learn a song and go to an open mike night and meet women there at that. Women who can sing or at least appreciate creativity.
Read books outside on the lawn or in the park on a blanket and be friendly to people who walk by.
Put up a lemonade sign and sell little glasses for 10 cents.
Volunteer to do sound for some fundraising event that you believe in.
Share cheese curds with strangers at the market. A guy struck up a convo with me that way.
Hold a staff barbeque at the radio station and tell people to bring people. Some fun theme, and an all seventies dress code…
Volunteer for the Fringe festival, in some social role. You could meet hundreds of people. Also you are great at acting, so you could talk about that shared interest with her. Bernstein could get you in, or introduce you to cool people in that community.
One way for you to meet people is to be in love with yourself and doing things that bring you joy so that what people notice about you, so they see what is shining out of you, because you are giving off a great vibe.
Practice taking relationship risks. It does get easier with time and practice.
Ask a cute girl on the street for directions, and then make her laugh.
Host a murder mystery and invite newer friends to come. Someone is always secretly having an affair with some other character. Serve wine so everyone is more low key.
Host monthly theatre sports at the Albert Community Centre, and go for beers after. Put up lots of posters all over, and make everyone feel welcome, and have a dependable core group of people, who totally aren’t cliquey or ever make an inside joke, but enough of a group so that people feel like they can join an entity that exists.
Host poetry writing beside the river every Saturday afternoon, with a big big sign, and balloons, lots of people walk over the Victoria street bridge, see who comes over.
I’ve met people at non-academic conferences. Find something in Sask on a topic you care about. Working the coffee break.
Get a community garden plot, and share a spade.
Do yoga. LOTs of women do it, and they are physically active, but more thoughtful than aerobics-doers. Also you can mentally engage with yoga, and I think the meditation part would bear a LOT of fruit in your life if you committed to regular practice. Oh totally yes, you should really find a good local yoga studio and start going every week. Men wear baggy shorts. And you can just hang around and be friendly at the end. It takes a few weeks before anyone talks at yoga, but if you stay with it, it comes. And after a few weeks, you can actually talk about how your yoga practice is going.
Take a course, like maybe a sask rec course, cooking, or a continuing ed course on campus, or a grad course. I’ve met lots of people in classes, and you automatically have something to talk about. You are witty, smart, creative, charming – I’d talk to you.
Once again, I appreciate the feedback, but (as previously noted) these are not things that I enjoy doing… Meeting strangers is not a skill-set that I possess. It is something that I am working on (going to dances, etc.), but it is just that: work.